This Night Is Different

I hope everyone is enjoying this holiday weekend. When I was a kid my favorite Jewish holiday was Passover.  Most of my relatives lived in Canada, so we'd drive up to Montreal and have a big Seder.  In all those years, though, I don't think I ever found the Afikomen.

One thing I've noticed in recent Seders--the Haggadah has gone soft.  Particularly regarding the Four Sons.  Here's the section on the Wicked Son from the old days:

The wicked one, what does he say? "What is this service to you?!" He says `to you,' but not to him! By thus excluding himself from the community he has denied that which is fundamental. You, therefore, blunt his teeth and say to him: "It is because of this that the L-rd did for me when I left Egypt"; `for me' - but not for him! If he had been there, he would not have been redeemed!"

Lately, though (sorry, no link), the response is a lot softer, trying to bring the son back into the community.  I don't even think he's called wicked any more. What is this?  Let's not forget Pesach is about the bitter along with the sweet.